Genital Herpes Can Happen to Anyone, Whether You've Had One Partner or Many
- May 27, 2024
- 3 min read
Updated: Jan 20

Genital herpes is a common sexually transmitted infection (STI) that affects millions of people worldwide. Despite the misconceptions and stigma surrounding it, herpes does not discriminate based on the number of sexual partners one has had. Whether you've been intimate with one person or many, genital herpes can happen to anyone. This aims to shed light on the realities of genital herpes, dispel myths, and emphasize the importance of education and prevention.
Understanding Genital Herpes
Genital herpes is caused by the herpes simplex virus (HSV), which comes in two types: HSV-1 and HSV-2. While HSV-1 typically causes oral herpes (cold sores), it can also cause genital herpes through oral-genital contact. HSV-2 primarily causes genital herpes and is transmitted through sexual contact.
Once contracted, the virus stays in the body and can reactivate periodically, causing outbreaks of sores and blisters. It's important to note that herpes can be spread even when there are no visible symptoms, through asymptomatic shedding of the virus.
The Myth of Promiscuity
One of the most harmful myths about genital herpes is that it only affects those who have multiple sexual partners or lead a promiscuous lifestyle. This is simply not true. Herpes can be contracted from a single sexual encounter with an infected person. The stigma attached to herpes often stems from this misconception, leading to unnecessary shame and silence.
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), about 1 in 6 people aged 14 to 49 in the United States have genital herpes caused by HSV-2. This statistic highlights how widespread the virus is, cutting across all demographics and sexual histories.
Personal Stories and Statistics
Consider the story of Sarah, a young woman who contracted genital herpes from her first and only sexual partner. Sarah was in a committed relationship and never imagined she could contract an STI. Her experience underscores that genital herpes does not discriminate based on sexual history.
On the other hand, John had several sexual partners and practiced safe sex but still contracted genital herpes. His story shows that while having multiple partners can increase the risk of exposure, it doesn't make someone more culpable or deserving of the infection. The virus does not judge; it simply spreads when given the opportunity.
The Reality of Risk
The risk of contracting genital herpes exists for anyone who is sexually active. Even with protective measures like condoms, which reduce the risk, the virus can still be transmitted through skin-to-skin contact in areas not covered by a condom. Furthermore, many people with herpes may not be aware they have it because they may not experience symptoms or have very mild symptoms that go unnoticed.
Importance of Education and Open Communication
Education is a powerful tool in combating the stigma of genital herpes. Understanding that herpes can affect anyone, regardless of their sexual history, helps to break down harmful stereotypes. Open communication about STIs with sexual partners is crucial in preventing the spread of infections and reducing stigma.
If you or someone you know has been diagnosed with genital herpes, it's important to remember that you are not alone. Seeking support from healthcare professionals, support groups, and trusted individuals can make a significant difference in managing the emotional and physical aspects of the condition.
Embracing Acceptance and Understanding
Living with genital herpes is manageable with the right information, support, and medical care. It’s important to dispel the myths and focus on the facts. Herpes can happen to anyone, and it doesn't define who you are. By educating ourselves and others, we can reduce the stigma and promote a healthier, more understanding approach to sexual health.
Remember, your worth is not defined by your diagnosis. Whether you've had one partner or many, you deserve love, respect, and understanding.
About the Author

Cat Dupree is the founder of Herpes Wellness and is dedicated to helping others navigate life with herpes, advocating for education and reducing the associated stigma. With a passion for mentoring and coaching, Cat empowers individuals to heal and feel confident despite their diagnosis.